Simon Sinek's Life Advice Will Change Your Future Must Read
I have five little rules you can follow as you find your
spark and bring your spark to life, the first thing to do is to go after the
things you want I'll tell you a story so a friend of mine And we went for a run
at the Central Park Road Runners organization on the weekends they host races
and at the end of the race it is very common that they will have a sponsor who
will give some apples or a bagel or something and on this special day But when
we finally got to the race there were some free bagels and they had picnic
tables and on one side there was a group of volunteers with bags of bagel boxes
on the table and on the other side there was a long line of runners waiting to
get their free bagels. so i said let's take a bagel for my friend and he looked
at me and said ah the line is too long and i said free bagel and he said i
don't want to wait in line and i was like free bagel And he says nah come on
this is too long and that's when I realized there are two ways to look at the
world Some people see the thing that they do. I want and some people see that
thing that prevents them from getting what they want I leaned into the box and
took out two bagels and no one got mad at me because the rule is you can go
after whatever you want you can't deny anyone else go after whatever you want
Now I had to sacrifice choice.
I didn't get to choose which bagel I got, I took everything
out, but I didn't have to wait in line, so the point is you don't have to wait
in line Yes, you don't have to do it like everyone else. it you can do it your
way you can break the rules you cant get in someone else's way what they want
is rule number one rule number two i love it was something like this in the
18th century which spread across Europe and eventually made its way to the
Americas called Puerto fever also known as the Black Death of C. Basically what
was happening was that women were giving birth and They would die within 48
hours of giving birth, the black death of childbirth was a catastrophe in
Europe and it had gotten worse and worse in some hospitals for more than a
century. 70 percent of women gave birth who would die as a result of giving
birth but this was the renaissance it was the time of empirical data and
science and we threw away things like tradition and mysticism These were the
men of science These were doctors and these doctors and science The people
wanted to study and try to find out the cause of this black death of the
child's bed and so they set to work to study and they would study the corpses
of the women who had died and in the morning they would conduct autopsies and
then in the afternoon they would go and give birth to babies and complete their
rounds and it was not until the mid-1800s that Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes
Supreme Court father Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes realized that all these
doctors in the morning Was doing autopsy, not washing her hands before giving
birth to babies in the afternoon and she pointed it out and said guys you are
the problem and they ignored her and called her crazy for 30 years until
someone realized not done that if they just wash their hands it will be gone
and fine That's what happened when they started sterilizing their equipment and
washing their hands, the black death of the baby disappeared the lesson here
sometimes you are the problem and my point is you take accountability for your
actions the world.
It should be a balanced equation that doesn't get you one
way and not the other when you take responsibility. you get a chance to take
credit, this lesson two lesson three take care of each other United States Navy
SEALs are probably the most elite warriors in the world and one of the seals
was asked who made it through the selection process who makes it capable of
becoming a seal and his answer was that I can't tell you what kind of person
who becomes a seal What kind of people don't become sealers, they say, with
huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos that can be seen in the world. Or want
to prove how tough none of them are. he said star college athletes who never
really tested their origins, none of them made it through
He said that some people who make it through you will see
them trembling with fear, although all those who make it find themselves
spending a lot of time emotionally when they don't have a physical. Or emotionally
there is nothing left to give somehow. are able to find the energy to dig deep
inside you to find the energy to help the guy next to you become the seal they
said you want to be an elite warrior it's not about how tough you are It's not
about how smart you are not about how fast you are I am good because that is
how people move in the world. The world is also dangerous and the world is very
difficult for you to think that you can do these things alone. If you find your
spark then I appreciate you. Know the skills of who to ask for help and when
you will accept help when you offer it and when you know you can't do it it's
amazing to ask for it when you learn You will find that there are people around
you who always want to help you, they didn't think you needed it because you
kept on pretending that you have everything under control and the moment you
say that I don't know what I'm doing I'm stuck I'm scared I don't think I can
Only when you learn to care for him Lesson four Nelson Mandela is a particularly
special case study in the world of leadership because he is universally
regarded as a great leader, you can take on other personalities and countries
that We have different opinions about other personalities depending on where
you go but around the world Nelson Mandela is universal again.
As a great leader he was actually the son of a tribal chief
and one day from him. Asked how did you learn to be a great leader and he
replied that he should sit with his father in tribal where and he remembers two
things when his father meets with other elders, one he always sits in a circle
and two his father was always the last to speak, you will be told for a
lifetime you have to learn to listen, i would say You have to learn to be the
last. Say I see this in the boardroom every day of the week, even people who
consider themselves to be good leaders who may actually be decent leaders will
walk into a room and say the problem here is what I think But I'm interested in
your opinion. Let's go around. It's too late in the room. The skill of having
your opinion until everyone does two things. One. It makes everyone feel like
they've been heard. Gives someone the ability to feel they have contributed and
let you get what everyone is thinking before giving your opinion The lack of
listening to what everyone is thinking is the skill to really keep your opinion
to yourself. agree then yes don't know if you disagree with someone just sit
there take it all in and the only thing you are allowed to do is ask questions
so you understand what they mean and why their opinion that you should
understand from where they are speaking why they have their opinion they just
don't have what they are saying and in the end you will get your turn this hope
Guess it's not an exercise to be the last to speak, that's what Nelson Mandela
did number five.
One of my all-in-all true story was a former Under Secretary
of Defense who was invited to give a speech at a big convention almost a
thousand people and he was standing on stage giving his prepared remarks with
his powerpoint with his cup of coffee and a styrofoam cup and he took a sip of
his coffee and he smiled and he looked ed down on the coffee and then he went
out of script and he said you know last year i spoke at the same conference
last year i was still under secretary and when i spoke here last year they flew
me here in business class and When I arrived at the airport someone was waiting
to pick me up at their hotel and they took me to their hotel and they had
already checked me in and they took me to their room and the next morning I
came downstairs and someone was waiting to greet me in the lobby and they took
me here, at the same place they made me enter the back Took me through the door
and took me to the green room and gave me a cup of coffee in a beautiful
ceramic cup, he said I'm no longer an under secretary I flew here by coach, I
take a taxi to my hotel went and i checked myself when i came down from the
lobby this morning i took another taxi to this venue i came to the front door and
found my way backstage and when i asked someone if you had any also in the
coffee he pointed to the coffee machine in the corner and i poured myself a cup
of coffee in this styrofoam cup he says the lesson is the ceramic cup that was
never meant for me it was for the position i held i am worth a styrofoam cup
remember this as you gain fame as luck you will get rank and seniority people
will treat you better they will keep doors open for you they will give you a
cup of tea and coffee here until they call you sir and ma'am and they won't
give you stuff that stuff is for you that stuff is for the position you hold
it's that level For whomever you have to be leader or success or whatever you
want to call it but you will always deserve a styrofoam cup remember that
lesson humility and gratitude you can accept all free stuff You can accept all
the perks absolutely you can enjoy them but just be grateful for them and know
that they are not for you none of us deserve the benefits that we get we all
deserve one are styrofoam cups
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