Be someone no one thought you could be not even you Tony Robbins Mindblowing Speech Flawless Motivation
So step number one is deciding to just develop the habit of
focusing on what's right in your world, the habit of focusing on what's wrong,
instead of focusing on what you have. What you don't have in a situation is as
basic and as you know you have to make it a habit because those habits form
your ultimate character chain of who you become and how you live your life, We
have to condition ourselves because if we don't 'won't we go back to that
automatic state that most people in today's society live in, the way to develop
the habit is to go on a mental diet. because i was going through incredible
pain at which time i had some big disappointments, some frustrations i felt
like i gave it all but the thing that changed me is one day i called this book
the seven day mental diet , it was a tiny little booklet and all the books that
were actually it were about 12 pages out of 14 was the one who challenged me o
really see if i can really live my life without a negative thought for seven
days and keep saying this all over the book don't say yes i can do this don't
say i gonna do it. Think for one while before you commit to doing it, don't
really commit until you're actually supposed to do it for seven days straight,
that doesn't mean you don't have a negative thought it means if you have a
negative thought you don't say it you set it aside you forget about it or you
change it you say something negative you erase what i really mean or you say i
don't mean it i mean it and you immediately focus on something well it's not that
nothing negative ever comes out it's that Don't immediately allow yourself to
have a negative emotion, day and night for seven days in a row, when the going
gets tough, even when someone lets you down y even when you get frustrated give
your all it still gets lousy accepted it, you can't believe what it will do to
your life now i have to tell you when i first read that book i thought being
positive for a second won't change my life have to deal with real problems
nearby, those real challenges that are out there I'm just not positive someone
says how's it going oh it's me I'm doing great and they wow you know I don't
know but I feel good I don't want to be that way I want to be real I want to be
on top of things but you know what I thought Wait a second I can be positive
about solutions I can still see without being negative about it there are some
challenges I can look at the challenges and say here what's cool about it
here's how we can use it is that you should have seven days to be completely
positive not a negative thought not a negative expression you hold onto it if
you don't leave it immediately if you have three days in it So you have a bunch
of negativity that you have to start over and you know when you go through four
or five six days in a row something really good negative is going to happen
how's that for programming some positive but what is it? It is a test to see
how committed you really are I will tell you something after seven days you
feel like a different person that people around you respond to you as you are
different as well What you want to do is establish the habit of seeing what you
have for what you don't have. Instead of judging what is great about a
situation versus what is not good, focus on solutions rather than problems that
change your life. Important number two here is instead of judging yourself and
letting others decide. Remember to be inquisitive rather than judgmental now.
Remember when you find fault in other people when you begin to constantly
notice how they have wronged you about how good this person is or not. They are
too cocky They are too proud or they don't really care about people As soon as
you start judging other people you just have to remember something If you start
judging other people you yourself too If you're angry at other people, you have
a very good chance. May be angry at ourselves too. Perhaps we need to
understand and judge less rather than finding fault with other people without
really thinking about what they have done to get where they are today. may be
curious what is it doing the situation the person is in or what is the
motivation behind this person's anger for example many times we think that
someone is negative or angry or frustrated with them but we never find out
don't bother it's actually going on i know myself i was at a party recently and
i felt victimized that there was a lady who came to the party behind her back
everyone was telling me that how incredibly cocky this lady is, how negative
she was but you know what i sat next to her at dinner time and i really got a
chance to find out who she was i got curious about her And I began to find out
about all the pain in her life when I realized that this woman was barely over
her life. she just needed to know that people care. Degi and I got the chance
to really get to know her and she was a wonderful person, I will tell you
something else about our decision to be careful about our relationship with us
out of fear of being heroes in our society , today we try and consume them and
destroy them as soon as we can know remember that we had less experience to
judge and we had to be curious instead of living in a society where we are so
afraid 'we are so afraid of believing anything or anyone that we believe in
nothing' and we lose the power of our positive thinking we try and protect
ourselves from things that We don't need to protect ourselves, but we live in a
society where we try and destroy our heroes where we take something like
Barbara Walters Incredible Broadcaster A woman of incredible integrity who was
told by one person in a book And it's in every newspaper around the country
that she's probably stumped on where she was. It 's absurd our martin luther
king comes back after someone's passing and smacks his whole career and his The
prestige is that the society we want to live in will want to be with any person
and will experience a lot seeing the pain of the other person. Remember the
quote in yourself that was not a sin, let him lay the first stone, the bottom
line is if you go looking for gray you are going to find it somewhere you find
it in others or Free yourself from the disease of doing wrong to others. And
you will free yourself from disease and make yourself wrong, you have a lot
more energy to create solutions instead of problems, it is part of the power of
positive thinking instead of falling for the destructive power of negative
thinking if You want to be curious Ask yourself what I like about this person I
wonder what is happening to this person that would make them feel that way.
How can I help this person When you ask these kinds of
questions you can learn something about how humans act about their motivations
maybe even some things about how to support yourself when You try to be
supportive of others so remember be curious instead of judgmental. The key
number three here is if you really want to develop the power of positive
thinking as a strategy for success as a lifestyle, So from now on decide to
find something to appreciate about any negative person or situation and develop
the habit of complimenting. See if you really want to have some more positive
emotions in your life. You have to be focused on what's right, you have to be
curious and most importantly find something to appreciate even in tough times
because in fact as we have often talked about before the most difficult times
in your life. sometimes provide you with real resources to change your life ,
so all we have to do is find something to appreciate someday when things are
bad Have in experience where I thought she was not very positive I am going to
talk about positive thinking as she came to see me and she is feeling really
sad she is feeling really disappointed really disappointed feeling you know her
problem is the problem that she tried and won the right to be among three girls
dancing in the electric light parade at Disneyland that was about three or four
months ago she was every day after school has been driving from diego to
anaheim, burning herself into the ground and going to school to be a straight
student and trying to meet up with her family and her boyfriend and she found
me about her problem think her problem is that she lives at Disneyland and
fulfills a childhood fantasy her problem is is that she loves her family and
wants to be with them too her problem is that she loves being in school and
really her problem is that she has so much abundance that she has to find out
that one day how to go and she can't do it she is burning physically it is her
problem you know what she says god i want to stay home i want to be with you
guys and all these things i want I don't wanna miss this great time we're
together not wanting to miss her career and what i'm doing and what's happening
what's the problem I can be negative about that and say god be more positive
you know that really made me realize the negative in this situation to be can't
be bad what i mean i don't mean to be negative i mean to be intelligent i mean
to be critical of you think it's sometimes useful to see what you don't have
negative thinking In terms of power of the same I promised you that how useful
negative thinking will be, I sat down with him and I said dear I said let's
look at the advantages and let's see the disadvantages of both are not just
positive let's look at it the whole thing is positive let's Know that whatever
you choose, you win, you have what most people dream of but take a moment to be
a little critical of what you love about Disneyland. what is giving you and
let's ask this question that maybe we don't get asked very often when we are being
completely positive what is it not giving you what are you afraid about what
you are missing out there What's Good About Staying Home What's Good About The
Things That's Not Good About It let's be honest what could happen if you were
there it's not good you can miss what and you know what he's got to use both
positive and negative positive thinking or more precisely positive thinking and
Given some critical thinking about what she's missing and allowing that pain to
inspire her, she was able to articulate what's most important in her life and
what's the best way to do it and she's one of the best ways to do it. came up
with a plan that completely empowered her after a few hours of conversation and
fun, she looks better than she did in about six months because she's finally
sorted out what's most important and sometimes just a stiff upper Keeping lips
positive is not enough Sometimes you stop and say I am positive I am going to
look at it in a positive way I am going to be in a positive position but I ask
some questions some people about negative I can think that which is what is not
working because if you only don't Seeing what's not working can get yourself
into trouble, so when I say number three is to develop the habit of noticing
something so you can appreciate the situation, even so What I mean by anything
that seems negative is to find out what's working, but also appreciate what's
not working enough that it probably causes enough pain for you. is that you
want to make a change, being completely positive all the time is not the
ultimate solution being purely positive is the solution for me 98 times
remember our steps number one you are going to focus that this Exactly how's
that and that's what we did today Joey and I sat down and said let's see how it
really is let's just not be positive let's wait for a second what's really cool
what's not good what's great not great everything is great in this context but
what is good in comparison what is not in both the situations now you really
how she wanted it and she decided how she wants it now what we are going to do
she started doing things that have changed her life maybe even affecting the
direction of her life maybe her career too and she feels happy and excited as
she goes through those steps there is a balance between positive and negative
thinking but one thing you have to remember you are going to spend most of your
time being positive are, once you see how it is, decide what you want and get
it done, don't hold back and say yes but it's not working see the balance it
doesn't mean that you spend fifty percent of your time positive, fifty percent
of the time negative remember When you do, make sure your focus is primarily
positive, but occasionally at specific times that you designate. Well, you're
going to say what it's working and let that pain drive you to do something
that's very positive that will change your life. The prime number here is four.
Decide not to be perfect and say what I said decide not to be perfect One way
to make sure you're negative is always striving to be perfect because you know
what you're doing to always notice what you're doing It's not because you're
called a human, when I talk to my daughter Jolie and this girl works so hard to
be perfect that everyone loves her, she's a simple student, she's in that
school wants to be the best she wants to be the best at home she wants to be
the best of disney she wants to be the best at everything and i'm constantly
trying to be the best was and it caused pain so you can't do that you'll be spoiled
you're gonna be negative things are gonna happen where You don't follow through
on what you know you're gonna make bad decisions happens so instead of being
negative and beating yourself up and saying boy is my another example of
sabotaging yourself decide what you want and say you know i'm not perfect but
i'm good and who What makes me good and what makes me great? As soon as I
notice I'm not on track can make me excellent I do it right and I get better
every day your goal is better not to be perfect and that's what anyone can ask
of you Whether you really try and contribute every day to be more and more than
you were that day before anyone can ask and if you know you're going to be
screwed and you don't make it a disaster So it's easy to bounce back right
away. You see the only way to fail is if you give up, but if you learn
something and you expand from that and you make some new decisions that enhance
your life and the people you love. If you care then there is no failure, don't
try to be perfect because you will never succeed
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